Writing 1: You Are the Mentor You’ve Been Waiting For

Written By Reid Wexler

“If I had a guide, I’d finally get unstuck.”
“If someone could just show me how to start…”
“If only I had a mentor.”

I used to say those things. Loudly, privately, in my head, in my journal — waiting for someone wiser to appear with a plan.

But what I’ve learned — often the hard way — is this: the best mentors don’t always arrive in a moment. They are revealed in motion over time.

This blog isn’t about pretending we don’t need others. It’s about recognizing that we also don’t need to wait. The ability to coach ourselves — to reflect, challenge, encourage, and grow — is one of the most underrated forms of personal power.

In My Mentor Mirror, we’ll explore how to:

  • Ask the right questions when no one else is around

  • Build a personal philosophy that keeps you grounded

  • Create momentum without outside validation

  • Think critically, act intentionally, and grow purposefully

Whether you’re reinventing, rebuilding, or just trying to keep going — this is your invitation to step into the role you’ve been outsourcing.

So, what now?
Begin with self-awareness. Learn to better use the resources already within reach. Hold yourself accountable. Own your decisions. Stay curious by embracing a beginner’s mindset — and commit to learning, always. And yes, reflect.

But why look back, especially when we can’t change what’s already happened? Because the past still speaks. It shapes the choices we make today, and those choices shape who we become tomorrow.

Lifelong learning isn’t a straight path — it’s a cycle. Past, present, and future are inseparably linked. The present is where we act. The past often informs those actions. And so, whether we recognize it or not, the past remains one of our greatest teachers.

“The mirror doesn’t just show who you are. It reflects who you’re becoming.”

Reid Wexler